There's only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that's your own self.- Aldous Huxley.
This is the day and age, where people are gasping for success and would do anything to achieve it. Everybody claims to know everything, and to be confident and outstanding. It is a fact that some of the successful people in today’s world are exceptions, they have every ingredient of success, however, Is it necessary that if we are confident, we should have high self esteem as well? What is self esteem, why is it so important in this day and age??
Self esteem is a crucial constituent for success in life. Confidence is part of self esteem but it is not necessary that being confident means having high self esteem. People like celebrities and TV personalities might have confidence on stage but when they are out of their professional world they can have the lowest self esteem of all. So, what is self esteem? - Self esteem comes from latin word “to estimate” therefore, to estimate yourself or an opinion on yourself is what self esteem is all about. (Cambridge University counselling service)
Now let us see, how can we evaluate ourselves or where do we stand or how strong is our self esteem? Lets ask following questions to ourselves:
1) Do I like myself?
2) Do I think I am good human being?
3) Do I deserve happiness?
4) Do I deserve love?
If we answer “yes” to all these questions, without hesitation, then yes we have high self esteem and vice versa. It is us who we should believe, it is our state of mind and our belief that the people see in us. If we want love and respect in life, we should love and respect ourselves first. Before, we introduce ourselves to other’s we should recognise ourselves.
Sometimes, acknowledging ourselves can be taken in a negative way. People might name us boastful, arrogant or conceited. It is obvious that with all these nomenclature, our self esteem would get a quake. Emotions, state of mind, surroundings, relations… affects one’s life in a big way. However, if we change the negative criticism into a positive ego, it will help to boost our confidence, and success would kiss our destiny. The more success we get in life, the more, people estimate our ability, which sometimes might lead to failure as we might not live up to the expectations. We constantly judge, evaluate and compare ourselves with others. It is good to compare ourselves, as it boosts our confidence, however, sometimes the balls can roll in other side of the court.
Everything can be changed in this world, apart from the word “change” itself. People tend to change their lifestyles and believe to get adjusted in the society or this fast moving world. In this pressure, they forget the beauty of life, which can lead to low self esteem as, if we don’t enjoy ourselves, we won’t be able to keep others entertained. We should believe that we are able and can achieve things that we aimed for; it indeed does help people to change their perceptions towards us.
Therefore, it is all about loving, respecting, pampering and recognising ourselves. If we do not respect and love ourselves, no one would, if we do not think we are beautiful, nobody would, if we do not think we are capable, no one would, if we do not think we can, nobody would….So what do you think???
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Yes, I agree with you. To get love, you have to give love. To want someone to love you, you have to love yourself first. And importantly, all the friends and people we choose to be with are fragments of ourselves. We see in others what we are. So if we see people as being misers, we probably are ourselves. And if we see people as good, we fundamentally are ourselves.
ReplyDeleteI love that you chose to write about self-esteem and the questions you asked are very important and valid. I like that you also use new words (for me to learn).